Have you ever looked at your life and realized it doesn’t quite fit anymore?

You’re doing all the same things — going through the motions — but it feels off. Like wearing jeans that used to fit, but now pinch and tug in all the wrong places.

Midlife has a way of revealing where we’ve outgrown the life we’ve built.

And sometimes, the hardest thing isn’t knowing what you want next — it’s realizing that what used to work no longer does.

We try to squeeze into old expectations. Old rhythms. Old beliefs about who we should be.

But here’s the truth: You can’t create a life you love if you’re still living by the rules of a life you no longer want.

One of the most powerful (and freeing) parts of midlife is this:

You get to choose.

You get to decide what your life looks like. Who you want to spend time with. What you want to focus on. Even what you want to wear.

There’s real freedom in letting go of what no longer fits — and a deep grieving, too. Because shedding the old life means saying goodbye to what once brought comfort, or identity, or a sense of purpose.

That’s okay.

You can hold grief and excitement at the same time. You can let go and look forward.

Here are 3 questions to help you begin:

1. Where in my life am I holding onto something that no longer feels good or true? (Relationships, routines, roles, responsibilities?)
2. What do I actually enjoy — not because I should, but because it lights me up? (Think simple pleasures, quiet yeses, moments when you feel like you.)
3. If no one else’s opinion mattered, what would I give myself permission to stop doing... or start doing?

Midlife is not a crisis — it’s an invitation.

To reevaluate. To release. And to realign.

And if you’re feeling stuck in a life that no longer fits, you’re not alone. This is the work we do inside The Midlife Roadmap — especially in the Stability and Community modules.

Curious about how coaching might help you figure out what you want next? Let’s talk.

The Midlife Roadmap beta group starts May 19. 10 weeks. Half-price. Real support.

Remember, you get to choose!