The summer after high school graduation is like a twilight zone—your kid is still home, but change is in the air. Whether they’re heading to college, taking a gap year, starting a job, or just figuring it out, this season can stir up a LOT—for them and for you.

If you’re a mom in midlife, you might be feeling all the things: pride, sadness, anxiety, nostalgia, hope. One minute you’re tearing up at Target in the dorm section, and the next, you're fantasizing about having the house to yourself again.

So how do you make the most of this weird, wonderful, in-between summer? Here are some tips to help you savor it—without losing your mind.

1. Expect Emotions (Yours and Theirs)

There’s no “right” way to feel. You might cry watching them walk across the stage—or while folding laundry. Emotions will come, often when you least expect them. Make space for them. Avoiding your feelings only delays the inevitable, and you might end up sobbing in the grocery store over cereal (ask me how I know).

Create a weekly ritual—journaling, walking with a trusted friend, or praying through your emotions. If you can, find a mom who’s a few years ahead of you. Their perspective can be grounding.

2. Don’t Take the Attitude Personally

Some kids get moody, anxious, or downright snappy before they launch. Why? Because they’re nervous too—and often don’t know how to express it.

Here’s the tip: Set boundaries, stay calm, and try not to overreact. Let them know disrespect isn’t okay, but give them space to process their emotions.

 If they seem emotionally off, this might be a great time to get them connected with a counselor or coach. Better now than in crisis mode later.

3. Use the Magic Question: “Do You Want to Be Held, Heard, or Helped?”

Sometimes we jump into fix-it mode when what they need is empathy. This simple question can be a game-changer for emotional conversations. (I made a reel about it—check it out here. Read the blog here. 

4. Plan Time Together—But Don’t Cling

Yes, make the memories. Yes, plan the beach day or family movie night. But also expect them to want to spend time with their friends. This is normal and healthy. You’re planting the seeds for your adult relationship with them—don’t smother it.

5. Let the To-Do List Go

They might procrastinate. They might forget to register for orientation or send thank-you notes. If it’s critical—like something financial or housing-related—step in. Otherwise, let them learn by doing (or forgetting). You’re helping them grow.

6. Talk About the Transition at Home

Now’s the time to revisit rules. Curfews, chores, expectations—it’s all changing. If your kid is heading to college, remind yourself: in just a few months, no one will be making them come home at midnight. Give them some freedom now so they can stretch while you’re still nearby.

Remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s connection. You’re shifting from full-time parenting to part-time mentoring. And it’s okay to grieve that.

This summer won’t be perfect. But with grace, intention, and maybe a few deep breaths, it can be beautiful.

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This summer is a strange mix of endings and beginnings—but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, excited, or a little bit of both, give yourself permission to feel it all. You’re not just launching your child—you’re stepping into a new season, too.

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